What is the essence of a woman?

It’s 4am already and I’m still awake..can’t sleep. Anyway, Suby had her post birthday celebration and we went there. Mark, Taj, Nyles, Checks and I got there around 10pm. Ferna couldn’t make it because she had a previous arrangement with her college friends, I think. Of course as expected, Suby served good food and Chito was also very accomodating.

Cheska and her big mouth…hehe. I laughed when I heard what Cheska commented on Suby’s being sick last week that made her postpone her birthday celebration. Not aware that Chito was there when we were getting food, Cheska and again,her big mouth (peace Checks!) blurted out this very innocent and pure comment….sorry…can’t write it here…We went home before 12am.

At home, I was surfing the net and suddenly Noel went online at ym(he was also present at Suby’s but needed to go home earlier than us. He said that he has to make a report and has a 9am class pa). Here’s the summary of our online chat:

Noelski: anong ginaawa mo? bat gising ka pa?

Noelski: aba… blog.. mala ko kung anong sinusurf mo jan.. eheheehehee
cel: naku bka ikaw nga kung anung cyber yang binabrowse mo hehe
Noelski: haler.. di po ako kagaa ng iba jan. tlgang nagpupuyat para lang magblog “DAW” .. HHEHEHE
cel: pure ang mind ko nohh

Noelski: kaw tlga.. if i know.. hehehe… let me tickle your mind instead. di naman siguro okay kung puro garbage nalng messages ko sa’yo. =).. let me ask you a commonly asked beauty contest question. … what do you think is the essence of a woman? answer this exhaustively. then let’s exchange thoughts. malay mo, mailagay mo to sa blog mo. =) let me push you to aswer this by telling you that others says it’s the woman’s appearance. others would say it’s child rearing or motherhood. others would say, that there’s none. let me know your thoughts.. ngayon mo patunayan sa akin na nagbblog ka nga.. eheheehe
cel: seryoso kb hehe e sinagot mo na e

Noelski: sagutin mo kasi.. then tell me why.. i haven’t answered the question yet. malay mo iba sagot ko.. =)

cel: the essence of a woman is not limited by her appearance nor in childrearing/motherhood. for me, the essence of a woman is immeasurable..in the sense that it goes beyond what others perceive her to be or what she must be. her essence is to be the best person that she can be. the same principle applies if you will be asked what is the essence of a man or being a man

Noelski: the essence of a woman is immeasurable?,,, you’re being safe madam… amm… example.. a chair. does a chair’s essense change? di na ba sya upuan kpag kulang na ang mga paa nito? .. a book./. i find your answer confusing because if a woman’s essense is emmeasurable, it could be that tomorrow, a woman can be a man (meaning male)…

cel: can you measure your essence or personhood?

Noelski: I can say what is a man’s essence. bakit takot ka na sabihin na motherhood ang essence ng babae?

cel: a chair is still a chair though it lacks one support kasi eventhough kulang

cel: so nilimit mo ang pagkatao niya if motherhood lang ang esensiya ng pagkababae niya

Noelski: yeah I agree that the chair is still a chair. even a book. kahit wala na itong mga pahina, libro pa rin ‘to.

cel: motherhood is not the be all and end all of being a woman. di dun natatapos pagkababae niya

Noelski: why? isn’t motherhood rewarding?

cel: the essence of a chair is when someone uses it so that it can function to what its really meant for

Noelski: isnt’ motherhood an ultimate determintation of women? does motherhood end when you have a baby? or are you deprived of motherhood if you don’t have a child?

cel: no one said that motherhood is not rewarding. almost all says it is, pero hindi lang yun pwdeng kumumpleto s kanya

Noelski: so the essense of a chair is on the utilitarian aspect i.e. use.

cel: for me its not the ultimate

Noelski: so what?

Noelski: what’s the ultimate?

cel: a chair aint a chair till somebody sits on it

cel: maraming aspects, to prove to the world that she is not as weak as others think she is, that she can fight her battle in a world of men, that she can raise a child on her own, her independence, her will and determination

cel: i know you might thnk that its too general, but di ba yun naman lahat gusto natin even for men

cel: na hindi tayo ikahon sa kung anu yung dinikta ng society and norms natin

Noelski: ammm… let’s say i made a chair. after making it, i didn’t sit on it. I immediatel displayed it on the store. when a person wants to know what it is, what will I say? will I say, that thing there doesn’t have a name yet. when someone sits on it, that the time it will have a name.. ..tsk tsk.. mukhang panalo na ako.. ehehehehe
cel: its a chair…pero how can you prove that its a chair if no one has seated on it? di ba its meant to be made as a chair so that someone can sit on it?
cel: tinangal mo yung esensiya ng pagiging chair niya kung hindi siya gagamitin. it is only a chair by name pag nagkataon

Noelski: so anong tawag ko dun sa ginawa kong baga na may apat na paa at pwedeng upuan pro di pa nauuupuan?
Noelski: so anong tawag ko dun sa ginawa kong bagay na may apat na paa at pwedeng upuan pro di pa nauuupuan?
Noelski: I agree that women shouldn’t be bound to definitions. But knowing a woman’s essence doesn’t mean na kinakahon mo sya. simplelang naman ang tanong . what is teh essence of a woman. If you say it is motherhood, then well and good. if you say it’s equally like men’s, then well and good. wala naman problem dun eh..

cel: in the first place, bakit mo siya ginawa? dahil may purpose ka. chair p rin tawag sa knya, mas buo ang pagiging chair niya kung ititreat siya sa purpose o objective ng nagcreate s knya
cel: bec i dont find that motherhood is her essesnce, for some it is but not for me

Noelski: kahit di pa sya nagagamit, chair na sya. tayo, kahit kakapanganak pa lang natin, tao na tayo kahit di pa alam kung magiging asal tao nga tayo,,..
cel: i answered what it meant to me earlier
Noelski: the essence of a woman is immeasurable.. isn’t motherhood immeasurable?
Noelski: ehehehehe.. antok na sya… eheheheehehe,,,,

cel: it is immeasurable..but that is not her only essence. when you say motherhood lang, nilimita mo siya n yun lang siya
cel: that is my opinion kasi marami tao i know na motherhood ang essence pra s knila
cel: so pag indi ako nagkaasawa and i wont be able to bear or rear a child, i wont be a mother, then ive no essence?

Noelski: it doesn’t mean that if you don’t have a child you’re not a mother.; yung earth nga ang tawag, MOTHER EARTH kahit di sya nanganak..  =)

cel: un ung pinopoint out ko na nalilimitahan siya
cel: tayo lang nman nagpangalan ng mother earth s knya eh
cel: goodness gracioous
Noelski: aba… may expression ka pang goodness and gracious.. =)

cel: so let me ask you what is the essesnce of a man

Noelski: essence of a man? it’s to live life. un lang.

cel: see ur answer is broad too

Noelski: what’s broad with that?

cel: kasi we know in ourselves that we have too much too offer

Noelski: it’s to live life. i’m not saying living it for the better or worse. just live life. period.

cel: where’s the essence in living a life

cel: what kind of life

Noelski: and hopefully along the way, he finds meaning in it.

cel: too easy to live a life…

cel: you wake up, you brush ur teecth you watch tv, u sleep again, u eat…that’s living a life

Noelski: is it really easy?…
Noelski: is that life for you?

cel: thats what im poitning out…your idea of living a life is diff for you
cel: iba rin sa iba
cel: we all have diff ways of living a life, how is the question

Noelski: kasi yung iba masyadong pinapahirapan. for me, life na yung sabi mo na wake up, toothbrush (kahit nga wala e), kain, tulog..
Noelski: how??
Noelski: diskarte ng tao yan. man is given limitless possibilities to live life to the fullest.

cel: yeah how, so limitless possibilities
cel: that means no boundaries
cel: the same for women
cel: no boundaries too

Noelski: well…. ang masasabi ko lang… i was successful.. ” let me tickle your mind instead.” … so napaisip din kita.. ehehehehe.. di lang puro boys ang iniisip ha.. eheeheheh 

cel: bsta pra s kin, di ako papayag na yun lng essence ko dahil kilala ko sarili ko heheheh

cel: women are really defensive sometimes bcoz there are men who are not open minded
cel: well its debatable really…

cel: real beauty comes frm within
Noelski: yan ha, ikaw na naman ang nagsisimula ng debate..
cel: oo nga
cel: hehe
Noelski: beauty is from the outside. kita naman di ba. look at me.. hehehehehee
cel: my gosh…kaya pla
Noelski: hehehehe..

We ended at around 4am, told him to sleep since he still has a 9am class. That’s 

That’s how Noel is sometimes, he likes to challenge people (he’s known for it hehe).  He gives you a piece of his mind though at times you’re unsure if he’s serious or just joking. He makes things complicated so that he can get a reaction from other people.. he questions, he clarifies, he asks a lot hehe..(he should have been a lawyer). He’s bright actually. I think one downfall niya lang ……………………………MAKULIT siya!